Spaceholding

You’ve summoned The Priestess. I hold a safe, energetic container where you can journey through your experiences holistically.

I am PRESENT with you. You are NOT a “burden” but are of interest to me, and your feelings are important.

And yet, while I offer a listening ear, spaceholding is more than active listening.

I am here to help you navigate your feelings and emotions. This includes the ones you’ve been told aren’t acceptable.

FEEL them.

In doing so, you will feel vulnerable.

In the past you brought them to the wrong door, and bared your soul to someone who wasn’t open to their own vulnerability.

Your feelings happen in the present, and your emotions are a doorway to healing.

I will be your witness.

Will you walk through?

No matter what feelings and emotions, thoughts or stories that come up, I will hold space for you.

Feelings & Emotions

Feelings offer you a map for your life. They happen in the NOW, and last for 3-5 minutes at most. They give you information and energy to use now, and are for handling things in the present. After using them consciously they disappear completely.

The 4 Feelings are Anger, Sadness, Fear, and Joy.

When they linger past 5 minutes they become emotions. These are feelings from the past, no longer based in the present. They are for healing.

Mixed Emotions are also a thing. For example, anger and sadness can mix to form depression. Fear and joy can mix to form excitement. Anger, fear, joy, and sadness can all mix to form overwhelm, burnout, or emotional paralysis. Those are just some of many mixed emotions. The process of healing involves unmixing them which you can do in an Emotional Healing Process with me.

You Are Conditioned To Judge Your Feelings

Feelings and emotions can be Conscious or Unconscious. Regardless, they are neither good nor bad.

Modern Culture conditions you to suppress them, and offers an Old Map of Feelings.

You are conditioned to judge anger, sadness, and fear as BAD.

And the moment you feel them you think something is wrong with you. There has to be some reasonable excuse to feel the “BAD” feelings and emotions.

I remember a 5th grade teacher telling me to stop crying because “nobody died.” And then I remember how when my mother died at 14, I was so emotionally paralyzed by the day of her funeral that I faked crying because I was afraid others would think I was insincere if I didn’t.

What messages did you receive about what is accepted or rejected when it comes to feeling?

* Anger is dangerous. Sadness is weak and unattractive. Fear is irrational. Sadness and fear are painful. *

These are just some. There are loads.

The conditioning makes you RESIST feeling.

The more you break through it, the more you can recover.

You think numbing helps you go on with life, but what it really does is suppress you from LIVING, embodying your truth, and bringing your Non-Material Value into the world.

Numbing to Survive

You numb your feelings through all kinds of survival strategies— beyond the notorious addictions Modern Culture is finally talking about.

These include unconscious habits of pretending to be happy or feel Joy.

Let’s take a moment to observe Joy—a feeling you may be thinking you need to have more of in order to be worthy or accepted, have more friends, be “high vibe,” etc.

For me, a survival strategy of Unconscious Joy has been sharing my sadness while smiling. This habit was formed as a means to sugarcoat things visually and not be a “burden” to others. It’s also manipulative. Another habit I formed is making jokes about “how ridiculous” something is, when what I really feel underneath is anger, sadness, or fear.

Masking The “BAD” Feelings With Joy

Joy is permitted in Modern Culture—but don’t be too happy, laugh too loud or too much—or people will think you’re crazy—or at least annoying! Oh yeah, and if they think you’re too bubbly—they may not respect you.

You’ve learned to use Unconscious Joy as a mask for feelings and emotions judged as “bad” or “wrong.” It’s acceptable to mask sadness, anger, fear, depression, resentment, and shame with jokes, fake smiles, fake gratitude. The list goes on. We’ve seen comedians who do this real well. “I had no idea they were depressed” people claim after they kill themself.

Most people will accept Unconscious Joy over the “BAD” feelings. They don’t know what to “do with” or how to “deal with” THE BAD ONES.

It’s a breeding ground for inauthenticity.

You can throw toxic positivity out the door when entering a space holding session with me. I will see through it. More importantly, it blocks authenticity and healing.

Expand Your Capacity For More Than “Good” Vibes

Your friends may not be able to hold space.

In fact, the world is filled with empaths, healers, and therapists who are disempowered, emotional sponges hooked in reactivity instead of actually holding space for you to feel and process your journey and navigate it.

Even in many spiritual communities only “good” vibes are praised. It’s BS.

The practice of Spaceholding expands your capacity for ALL vibes, feelings and emotions.

You can explore and process remnants of shame that came up this week, rooted to a experience you went through at 6. You can journey the Underworld in your latest Dark Night of the Soul and receive the wisdom in your wounds consciously.

And you can emerge from it all, like a phoenix rising from its ashes and being reborn, or like Persephone gracing the earth with spring and retaining the wisdom of the Underworld after eating of its fruit.

When you live from a state of conscious feeling, you are authentic and can use your feelings in the moment. This does not mean that you use your feelings to scream, blame, complain, manipulate others, or play out other forms of Low Drama.

No, instead you take Radical Responsibility

for ALL your Conscious Choices and Unconscious Choices

and for ALL your Conscious Feelings and Unconscious Feelings

The first step of this practice is to realize that your feelings aren’t your enemy.

To realize this you’ll need to shift to The New Map of Feelings and practice conscious feeling. This is the foundation of what you’d do in a spaceholding session with me. Your conditioning has lead you to believe you are a victim of your feelings and emotions. This is not true.

Your feelings each serve a purpose and belong in you. And when you appreciate them, feel them, and use them consciously, your life will TRANSFORM and you will become more empowered. This begins with healing your relationship with them.

In order to transform you must also be willing to give up your conditioning and survival strategies.

And if you’re really on the path of Transformation it will become impossible to continue them—as they will work against you.

Your awareness and presence leads to outgrowing them. They die off, and you grieve them. ~And you honor them for the role they played.

A new path of Evolution is carved out through your Healing. You receive the gains of Post Traumatic Growth, and feel gratitude for it all.

Your Invitation To Empowerment

What will it be like for you to experience true Empowerment through feeling?

Will you let me know in a week? A few months? A year?

I do not have power over you and am not here to rescue you. I cannot dictate your outcomes. Your energetic center is yours, as are your discoveries.

What I will say is that there exists a possibility that the survival strategies working against you are transformed into your greatest gifts.

This is alchemy.

It starts with Feeling your feelings and being SEEN by a spaceholder who can co-regulate with you.

I invite you to the space as the sovereign being you are with infinite potential and possibilities.

In it you will FEEL the Presence of The Priestess, my energy—filled with Love and Integrity, Exploration and Creation, Healing, Transformation, and more.

Are you ready?